A Theoretical Model of Protecting Family Sexual Borders Based on Islamic Sources for Spiritual-Systemic Family Therapy

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1 Associate Professor, Department of Hadith Knowledge, Faculty of Islamic Sciences and Knowledge, Quran and Hadith University, Qom, Iran. (Corresponding Author)

2 Professor, Department of Psychology, Quran and Hadith University, Qom, Iran.

Abstract

In Islamic narratives, not only do individuals have a sexual border, but also family has a sexual border that its teachings can be modeled. This analytical-documentary study tried to present a model of protecting family sexual border based on Islamic studies. The qualitative content analysis was applied for analyzing the data, and then the theoretical modeling was done in the form of clinical and analytical observations; thus, after analyzing and coding more than 100 Hadiths and the related Quranic verses, 23 narratives were selected after validating and paying attention to the Quranic verses in terms of modeling, and they were analyzed regarding three components related to family borders (inside-outside, self-other, and man-woman). According to the results, the model of family sexual border includes the components of inside-outside and man-woman. The model of sexual relationship of men and women with non-spouses (self-other) is a closed and protective model, and the model of sexual relationship of couples with each other is an open and satisfactory model. The outside aspect of this model is a combination of chastity and zeal, which makes the couples feel sexually safe, and the inside aspect is a combination of ostentation (Tabaroj) and readiness that is a sign of sexual attention. In addition, there is an inverse relationship between the inside behavior of the system and the outside, that is, sexual prohibition outside the family is related to sexual satisfaction inside the family and vice versa. Therefore, comprehensive programs, based on the concepts of chastity, zeal, and ostentation (Tabaroj), should be designed for protecting family sexual border. This model can be tested for improving family safety and peace in the spiritual family therapy.

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